nickwitha_k (he/him)

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Cake day: July 16th, 2023

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  • As an end goal?

    Fuck no. As an appetizer. Make those that would prey upon the weak and vulnerable afraid to ever leave their beds in the morning, look out their windows, or answer their phones lest they be found for what they are and face an inevitability of being stripped of everything they have and forced to contribute to society or, if they refuse, kept safe somewhere that they can never harm anyone.

    Another side of me would prefer something a bit more brutal involving pikes used as public displays to serve as warning to the rest. But, that isn’t realistically productive and probably stems from statistically unlikely survival of early childhood experience.



  • Technically correct (still the best kind of correct). However, the meaning has changed a but due to the word’s falling into disuse. Colloquially, it is now used as a mid-point between overwhelmed and underwhelmed, describing a situation as a mundane experience. Not disappointing, too stimulating, or even satisfying; just neutral (“Tell my wife I said ‘Hello’”).


  • This is not how soldiers work for the most part though.

    Maybe modern professional soldiers. However, there was some research around WW2 with draftees and conscripts that suggested that in the case, a substantial number would not fire on the enemy or intentionally miss in close combat. There has been some debate over accuracy of the results but, the US military found them compelling enough to sink immense resources into attempting to address this through training.

    Anecdotally, my grandfather was a volunteer and gunner on a landing craft in the Pacific and would have died, if not for the armor plate in front of him. He admitted to intentionally not shooting at enemy soldiers, when laying down suppressing fire, primarily damaging empty sheds and the like. Despite choosing to be there, he didn’t want to kill anyone.

    Compare that to conscripts and draftees fighting in the Russia-Ukraine war and you’re a lot more likely to find people uncommitted to killing other human beings. Most human beings have a strong aversion to homicide, even in war.





  • This has also been my experience. Then again, I always had problems dealing with mainstream straight guys, even as a kid. Growing up with untreated AuADHD and being a massive nerd really didn’t make things easy. As an adult, it’s been really hard to find friends in my own gender/orientation as nearly every one of them that I come across seems to let the mask slip a bit and say or do something very problematic.

    So, I decided to drop that cohort and start intentionally socializing with people in more LGBTQ-heavy spaces. It’s done wonders for the social anxiety that I developed over years of doing little but work too much. Now I’ve got some budding friendships with people from all across the LGBTQ+ rainbow and people encouraging me to be emotional vulnerabile (in a healthy way). It’s pretty fucking fantastic.

    I guess the lesson to learn from this is that straight guys should go to therapy to deal with their problems (and learn more about their emotions) and seek friendship with LGBTQ+ people (and look out for and stand up for them, when they need it).